We Had Started Dating During Our Uni Days

I think it was around 200 level or so, and we paid little to no attention to our genotypes back then. I don't even think either of us thought it would lead to marriage. All we knew was that we loved each other deeply. We only started asking the right questions during our final year, and that was when we discovered that we were both AS. My wife cried so much, and we agreed to break things off.

Our service years came, and we both went our separate ways. But after a year of service, we ran into each other again at a mutual friend’s wedding. We got talking and asked about each other’s love lives. Surprisingly, we had the same story to tell—our love lives were both terrible.

I couldn’t help but notice how much more beautiful she had become, and I could tell that she missed me a lot too. During the after-party of the wedding, we kissed, got drunk, and ended up in the same hotel room. Undoubtedly, things happened because our emotions got the best of us.

I woke up with a heavy hangover, and my vomit was all over the place. She helped me get over it, and after I got better, I couldn’t help but want more of her in my life. So, I popped the question—I asked her to marry me. She looked so shocked and immediately brought up the genotype issue again. But I was ready to be with this woman. She is my soulmate, and I didn’t need an oracle to tell me that.

She was adamant for the first few weeks but eventually called for a meeting. We talked things over, and I resolved that all we had to do was simply not have kids. I remember her words vividly: “I’ve always wanted to be a mother, and this is too much that you’re asking from me, Kunle.” I told her to think about it, and the next week, she told me she wanted to be with me.

That was the happiest day of my life. I was so ecstatic that I called my mother immediately to tell her I had found a wife.

Q: So none of you have kids, or do you plan to adopt?

We’ve been married for eight years now, but I have a five-year-old boy out of wedlock. It was a one-time mistake that led to the child. After that, I got a vasectomy to ensure it would never happen again. In retaliation, my wife cheated with my best friend and got pregnant too. The child stays with us, and I consider her mine. So, we have two kids. Both kids, by the way, are AA.

Q: What’s your take on true love?

I do not regret marrying my wife. I love her so much, and she means the world to me. We’ve hurt each other in ways—whether intentional or not—but we’re not leaving each other. Not now or in the future.

To me, I’d say true love is very intentional.